Lovely Quiniones

-Lovely Quiniones

Over 10 million dollars for an extravagant wedding & Kim Kardashian only lasted 72 days of marriage due to ‘irreconcilable differences’…What a joke!

There are thousands of young women who idolize & look up to such poor celebrity examples & don’t even realise how much influence it has on their own lives. She’s just added another percentage to the already high divorce rates in the world.

It’s so sad that the value of marriage is being stripped away from our society & divorce has become somewhat normal & acceptable because that’s what our kids see all over TV, in their own families & friends.

Anyone can give up & run away, the real test is to STAY! No one ever said marriage would be easy but it wouldn’t be worth it if it was.

I take my hat off to those who work through their differences, persevere & withhold their vows…after all, that’s what marriage is about: ‘till death do us part’. Those are the marriages that should be recognised.

…some people are so caught up in problems or issues that don’t even have to be a problem. They are so used to complaining & seeing life in such a negative view that they are so blinded and miss all the good things life is trying to offer them. Why waste time complaining? Is that how you want to live the rest of your life? No one wants to be around a constant complainer? At the end of the day, you might find that you will have no one left because u drove them all away.

Get a hold of yourself & appreciate every little thing that you have…life is only as bad as you make it and as good as you make it. I see kids complain about their parents all the time!!! They complain that their parents are too strict or never let them do anything or that they hate their parents, etc etc. Wow, if your parents let you do whatever you wanted in you life and don’t care….chances are you’d be complaining that your parents don’t give a hoot about you!!!! People are always finding a reason to complain! There are 2 guarantees in life…the pain of discipline and the pain of consequences. The only difference is that the pain of discipline is only temporary and can save you a lifetime of suffering yet the pain of consequence can be permanent.

Stop wallowing in your sorrows. The only people you’ll attract to your friendship circle is people who will join you in your wallowing & make life even more miserable and will blind you even more to anything good that comes by.

Life is a beautiful gift that so many take for granted unless they lose a loved one or have a near death experience. Don’t wait until those moments to appreciate life and the people in it.

- Lovely Capilitan

This is part of the reason why we continue to see a rise in divorce rates, affairs, depression, suicide, broken families & rebellious children…it paints a picture of a world living in constant hurt & pain because of the choices humans make. How easy it is for people to fight for freedom then when they get the freedom, they abuse it and find themselves entangled in a life of despair.

People say ‘if God really loved His people, He wouldn’t allow bad things to happen’. What a blinded concept, God gave us free will from the very beginning, He didn’t want to control our choices otherwise we may as well be robots. He doesn’t want the bad things to happen but humans allow them to happen by the poor choices they continue to make. God gave us exactly what we wanted but oh how so much freedom has caused people to live a life of constant grief.

The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever. The temptation to give in to what the world hands you on a silver platter is easy, it takes a real man & a realwoman to stand up and say no to the pressures of the world.

The Bible is not a book of rules, it is a book of wisdom and guidance and it is up to us whether or not we choose to follow a road to despair or a road to happiness. I would rather live a life guided by God’s wisdom rather than live a life of regret. I’m so glad that my husband & I are part of the rare percentage of people who have not brought emotional baggage into my marriage because of the choices we made in the past.

-Lovely Quiniones

-Lovely Quiniones

The story of Sylina LiBasci….

On May 16, 1997, I was being a mum as usual and I got up early enough to have my devotion and pray. My four year old son, Caleb, came in, and I bathed him. Soon, my two year old, Benjamin, was awake, so I bathed him. I fed them breakfast while Wesli, my ten year old daughter, was dressing for the day. We were palnning a day of fun at our church.

On the way to church, a dump truck struck our car. My four year old, Caleb, went to be with Jesus instantly. Benjamin was critically injured and lived only two days and sixteen hours after the accident. My daughter, Wesli, was taken from the scene by helicopter to a childrens hospital, where thankfully, she fully recovered from her injuries.

Though I will never fully understand why God chose to take my children, i can say God has turned my crisis into a miracle. The driver of the truck that struck us asked Jesus into his heart. But the greatest miracle occurred at the memorial service where sixteen of our family members accepted Christ.

We had been praying for a household revival and this was the beginning. God has opened the doors for us to minister to many grieving families. We have seen the Lord bind up the brokenhearted through our hardest life experiene.

Although Sylina and her husband faced the greatest tragedy of their lives, God was able to bring something good out of it. Nothing can ever take the place of the children that she lost but she takes comfort in knowing a difference has been made in the lives of others who are hurting, and one day she will see them again.

Life has done nothing to you that God can’t use for good, if you will put it into His hands. God can turn your pain into purpose. Through the test comes a testimony, from the mess comes a message of hope for others walking through hardship.

The reason some people are never used by God is that they have never been through anything. God gets His best sailors from the roughest seas and His fiercest soldiers from the toughest battles.

The above is a photo of 2 of my closest friends. They are genuine, wise, inspiring & lovingly honest. They are ‘faith friends”.

God wants to help you make wise choices about the people you let into your life. Finding the proper people is important in determining God’s will for your life. Too often, good people get entangled in bad relationships, with disastrous results.

Character discernment is a valuable tool for avoiding entanglements. It is a skill that many of us lack. It is simply the ability to find relationships that are good for you & to avoid those that are not.

When people come into your life, they don’t just bring their bodies, they bring their spirits. There are 2 kinds of people: “flesh people” & “faith people”. Flesh people tear you down and feed on your fears , while faith people build you up & feed your faith. Flesh people waste your time & drain your energy. This doesn’t necessarily mean that flesh people are bad people, it just means they don’t belong in your inner circle. It also doesn’t mean that you should shun such people. God wants us to love all those we come into contact with. But we have to make sure that we are surrounding ourselves with more people who fill our lives than drain our lives.

Faith people are the kind who fill your life. They draw you closer to being the person God created you to be. They will be the ones who are lovingly honest with you & they are strong when you are weak.

If God wants to bless you, He will send a person & if satan wants to curse you, he will send a person. That’s why, everyday, we have to pray for 20/20 discernment in the world of the spirit to know the right people from the wrong people.

We need God to restore the discernement within us, so we can recognise the right people, the blessed people, the faith people, the kingdom connections He has for each one of us. But we also need discernment to recognise the wrong people.

God sent Jonah on a mission but Jonah disobeyed Gods will & headed in the opposite direction. During the voyage, the ship ran into a storm that threatened to capsize it. There were other people on the boat besides Jonah also about to lose their lives. All it takes is one rebellious, disobedient man to take a whole ship load of people down with him.

This is an important lesson for those trying to learn discernment. There are times when you are not the problem but it may be the people with whom you are associating with that are the problem. Sometimes, when your life is rocking & reeling in the storm, it’s because of the people to whom you have attached yourself. We can wander into storms simply by trying to help people by doing for them what they should be doing for themselves. If Jonah had not been tossed off the boat, eveyone would have perished.

As soon as you get the wrong people out of your boat, your storm will cease. You will experience a great calm. Some of you need to throw some jonah’s off your boat. If you throw a Jonah off your boat, remember, God is still there for them. When you allow the wrong people into your life, you’re not helping them, you may be keeping them from what God has prepared for them. Ask God to reveal the Jonah’s in your life who are rocking the boat. Pray for the wisdom and courage to ‘throw them off your boat’. You cannot worship God as you ought to as long as there are toxic relationships and turmoil all around. Whatever is stealing your peace and rocking your boat, whatever is taking your smile away, reach down, pick it up & throw it overboard.

If you have spent your life gravitating toward all the wrong people, I have good news for you, God will bring the right people and toss out the wrong people. But when He does, don’t return to the wrong people. “Every branch in me that does not bear fruit, He takes away [John 15.2.]”. That does not mean that they’re inferior and you’re superior, it just means that they are not part of Gods will for your life. Like Jonah, God has a different plan, a different course, for them. But if you insist on grafting them into your life, God may have to do relational surgery & prune them out.

Some people bless you when they come into your life, some people bless you when they exit your life. There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother [proverbs 18.24]. Use every ounce of wisdom and discernment to find such people. If someone is destructive or producing bad fruit in your life, be careful. Keep looking, praying, and seeking until you find the right people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.

*Excerpt from “Right people, Right Place, Right Plan by Jentezen Franklin”